Well, there isn't much to tell. Dani behaved herself. But that's not to say that Pam and Greg are off the hook.... not by a long shot! There will come a day, when they least expect it... right when they think she's finally coming around that she will blast them. I've seen it happen. She's done it to John and me on numerous occasions.
Dani basically said she (the stepmother) didn't talk much at all the entire day (they had lunch, saw a bad play, had dinner before dropping Dani off at her car). Greg left them alone for a few minutes and they didn't exchange one single word. The only time she spoke directly to Dani was when they took her shopping for shoes (he ALWAYS takes her shopping) and Pam said, "Oh! they're pretty!" Brilliant converationalist. I can see why he married her.
I, for one, have not met her yet and barely know what she looks like. If I had my way, I'd meet her at Greg's funeral and I just might spit on her then. But they say only the good die young, so I expect Greg to live for a long long time. I will have to meet her and be charming when my older daughter gets married (I swear, Gina! I'll be good!) But that is somewhere down the road.
OH! And after all this rigamarole (another of my mother's words) the stepmother didn't show up for Thanksgiving dinner! The whole point of this meeting was so poor Pammy could go to the family functions as well as Dani. But I got the info from the older daughter that she (stepmother) already made plans to go to her mother's for Thanksgiving. Now... what do you suppose her family thinks that, for the past 4 years, her boyfriend/husband hasn't been with her for Thanksgiving and Christmas because he has to be with his kids, including the one who refuses to meet the stepmother and she's not invited to go??? Does she tell Mommy Dearest that she can't go with her in-laws because her youngest stepdaughter is mad she was fucking the daddy while he was still married??? Oh I'd bet good money she says it's all my fault. I had more here but deleted it.
Good therapy though, writing it all down and getting it out.