Why I Can't Sell My House

My ex wants me to get the house sold. I do too. We actually had the house on the market for over a year, but had no real buyers. I'd love to get the house sold and move to a smaller house. I really don't need to be living in a 2500SF home with 4 bedrooms and 2.5 baths. It's me and Dani here, and in August, when Dani goes to college, it will be just me.

I told my ex that aside from the fact that the bottom has dropped out of the housing market, and we'll NEVER get what we owe for the house at this point. I told him that we really can't put it back on the market until AFTER Dani leaves for college and I'll show you why shortly.

The reason we can't get what we owe for the house is because we re-financed the house about 4 times during the nearly 20 years I've lived here (16 for him). It was always a good idea at the time. Now I soooo regret it! If we had not done any refinancing, we would have the house paid in full by August of this year. The last time we did a re-finance, it was after Greg left and was living with the slut woman he left me for. He needed money to live on. I don't see why. She had a perfectly good condo that she was paying for. All he really needed was spending money and I was perfectly willing to continue to give him $300 every other week like I did for years. Anyway, as usual, he got his way and we did a final re-finance. And it was an INTEREST ONLY LOAN!! So today I owe exactly what I owed 4 years ago when we did this asinine thing.

So we can't sell the house because with the economy, it's worth less than we owe and there is no money to pay for the difference. The other reason I can't put the house on the market right now is I have to wait until Dani leaves for college. The child is a slob like you cannot believe! I have given up. I can't keep the house clean for longer than maybe a day, most likely less than that. And when I go to John's overnight it's worse. I honestly believe she's punishing me for the divorce, for having a boyfriend who she despises, for her father marrying that slut woman. Once she's gone, I can keep the house neat and clean all the time!

I took pictures of her bathroom, her bedroom and the spare room she supposedly used for a sewing room. I'm not even sure you can see the sewing machine in that room! Actually, except for the kitchen table and some stuff in the sink, the kitchen isn't too bad right now.

It does no good to punish her. She comes and goes as she pleases. I'm too tired to fight with her any more. I just don't know what to do until she leaves. So here they are:

I ran out of memory on my camera because Dani helped herself to my memory card and my camera holds maybe 5 pictures. So I wasn't able to do "justice" to her bedroom. The last picture is her bedroom.