Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Random Tuesday Thoughts: alimony, ex-wives and other fun stuff

My new dryer is being delivered on Wednesday!  Woo hoo!!  No more lugging baskets of laundry to the laundromat or to John's apartment!  No more making sure I have enough quarters!  No more making sure the soap, spot cleaner and dryer sheets are in my car!  Life is good!!  Keep your fingers crossed that my washing machine doesn't get jealous and kick the bucket.  I still have to buy a new dishwasher and a new bed frame for my bed.

Yes, we broke my bed... AGAIN!!  I swear all I was doing was getting into the bed...nothing else... this time!  But this time the hook that goes into the headboard is broken in 2 pieces.  It looks like someone cut it!  But it's iron!  I discovered I can get a new frame for less than $100, so that was good!  And well, there was the airbed that John had when he was getting divorced.  We sorta broke that one too. 

Speaking of  divorce and stuff...(what a segue!) three of John's four ex-wives (yes, I said FOUR EX-WIVES) are now friends of his sister's on Facebook. I'm finding this quite comical.  It's like an ex-wives club.  I consider myself the Un-wife.  This is actually the longest John has been in a relationship with someone and NOT married them!

What can I say?  The man loves to be married.  He just can't manage to stay married. If John had his way, we'd be married right now.  And we might be, if it wasn't for my alimony.  I can't go getting married and let my ex off the hook for the alimony 4 years earlier than he has to!!!  Besides, if I wait until after I turn 60, I'll get the ex's social security too!  I can wait.  Hell, I might never get married again! 

That alimony (it's called Spousal Support in PA) is like a paycheck!  A paycheck that I earned every penny!  Just the six years I worked for him for NO MONEY when he had the restaurant doesn't even cover it!

I told John I was going to marry him for his health insurance.  He has really good health insurance!  He doesn't think so because he was told if he stayed in the Army for 20 years, he'd have free medical care for life.  Now he has to pay for his prescriptions, he has co-pays with doctors and hospitals, but it's minimal compared to what a lot of other folks pay. 

So my kid is leaning towards staying in college after all.  Yippee!!!  Hooray!!!  She can always go to Cosmetology School after college if she wants.   She went to see the school with her Dad on Saturday and really liked it though.  So we'll see.  I'm just happy she's thinking seriously of staying put.

I lost a follower overnight.  Boo.

Well, I think that's it for my randomness!  Go see Keely at The Un Mom, read some of the randomness from other folks.  You can even give it a try yourself!  Go over, grab the button, link your random stuff to Keely's blog and you might even find some new friends!


Mellodee said...

Isn't that the way....everything breaks at the same time! Tho I guess I'm a tiny bit jealous of all the ahhh...uhmm...action(?!!) the sleeping surfaces are getting in your life. Breaking a bed frame takes some serious effort!! :)

slommler said...

Breaking an air mattress takes effort!! LOL!! WTG!!!! Yes get that spousal have earned it. And hold out for the social security too! WTHN!!!!
My granddaughter was going to cosmetology school too but decided to go to college first. I think it should be the other way around. With her "hair" license...she can work while she is in college. Just saying...!

Joanne said...

Love catching up with your random thoughts. Ok I get the not wanting to lose the money - I would feel the same way with my pensions but getting married didn't affect either of them *phew*

Congrats on the new dryer - I am the opposite new washer old dryer - keep hoping it keeps on working.

My followers seem to go up and down weekly - when I was away last week I lost a couple - regained one - doubt if I will ever break the 50 mark LOL

Maureen@IslandRoar said...

Yay for your dryer! I LOVE my dryer. And Yay for your daughter staying in school.
And of course don't get married and lose those benifits! You've earned every frigging penny. People sometimes look at me cuz my ex pays my mortgage, and I just think, if they only knew how I've earned this...
And um, sure the bed(s) just broke on their own, Joanie. Yeah, we believe that...

I am Harriet said...

Woohoo on the new dryer!

Have a great RTT.

Garret of Jim and Garret said...

New dryer = awesomeness to the umpteenth level.

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

The new dryer makes up for the lost follower!! :)


The Crazy Coxes said...

Lucky girl! New dryer!
Okay so maybe the broken bed isn't that lucky, but still!

Have a great Tuesday!

Anything Fits a Naked Man said...

New dryers RULE!! Congrats! Good luck on fixing the bed (are you SURE you were just climbing into it?!!)

Don't fret on losing a follower, their loss!!

Debbie said...

Followers are always coming and going. It is hard not to get sad about it though!
And that is weird about the ex-wives on facebook!

Pseudonymous High School Teacher said...

You didn't lose me, I'm still following ; - )

Just slow on catching up with a big load of life going on.

Alix said...

Don't be coy with us, missy... WE KNOW HOW you broke the bed. Again.

I completely understand John's liking being married, and believe it or not, all of Larry's family's exes are friends. His brother left his second wife for his third wife (divorced from both and married to #4) and now ex-wife #2 and ex-wife #3 are like best friends. Crazy right? And yet, I'm friendly with Larry's ex-wife. She's nice. So, it makes sense. But still.

And I wouldn't feel one twinge of anything but glee at wringing every last penny out of your ex. Enjoy that. As far as you and John are concerned, you're already married in the heart. The paper can wait.

Congrats on your new dryer. May you have many long warm loads together. XO

Garret of Jim and Garret said...

LOL @ Alix!

Heather said...

A new dyer will make the whole process soo much easier. I'm happy for you.
The bed well....LOL!
I am friends with hubby's ex wife and ex girlfriend! He really did have great taste in women! They are such lovely people, NOW.
That would scare me that he has been able stay married..hmm wonder why?
I say milk that ex for all he's got! Especially after what he did to you!

insomniac ellen said...

yeah--you were just getting to the bed... uh-huh....

um,...maybe it's just me,...but if I had 2 marriages go belly up, I think I would decide "This just isn't for me" and just live in sin...

just sayin'