Those of us in the blogging world and the Facebook world who know and love Hallie Twomey were asked to do a memorial blog post about her beloved son, CJ. Now, I never met Hallie or her husband or 2 sons in the "real world". I only know them via Hallie here in Blogiland. From what I have learned of CJ and indeed, the rest of the Twomey Family is that CJ, like his mom, he had a great sense of humor, always laughing. You can see it in all of the pictures Hallie has on her Facebook page. I'm proud to say CJ served our great country in the US Air Force and served in Afghanistan. I wish I could have met CJ before he left his family way too soon. I think I really would have liked him... a lot.
A couple of Hallie's friends, Dayna and Kimmey, wrote a lovely blog post last Sunday. I'd like to copy it here for you all to see, in case you don't read Hallie's blog. And, if you have a minute or two, please say a prayer or send a few good thoughts to the Twomeys. They sure can use them right now.
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Written in Loving Memory of
Christopher John “C.J.” Twomey
on behalf of Hallie, John and Connor Twomey
by Dayna and Kimmy.
Words are at times, inadequate, and often hard to come by. This is the hardest thing we have ever had to write. It is with deep sadness that we tell you that on April 15th, Christopher John “C.J.” Twomey, the beloved son of Hallie and John, big brother to Connor, passed away unexpectedly, leaving behind his heart-broken family and friends.
Please take a moment to read C.J.'s obituary. In the middle of all their saddness, Hallie and John were able to find the strength to write a beautiful and loving tribute to their amazing son.
Those who loved C.J. are left to miss his infectious smile, to wish to hold him again, to have him saunter into a room and make us all laugh. We wish we could talk to him, to watch him love the way that he did, with his whole heart. In short, those who loved C.J. are longing for the future we were all supposed to have with him. Hallie and John are heart-broken, are struggling to understand the events of the past week and are focusing on making sure their son Connor, who has shown grace and maturity well beyond his 16 years, knows and feels the love of his parents at this very difficult time.
Hallie, John and Connor have received an overwhelming amount of support over the last week from friends nearby who have stood with them through horrific circumstances, to the calls of support and the messages sent through text, email, Facebook and many other mediums. They know that so many of you are hurting as well.
Even in the mist of incomprehensible pain, Hallie and John continue to think of others. Despite their own pain, they remembered the pain of Hallie’s dad as he was waiting for a heart and became a recipient himself. In C.J.'s final hours, Hallie and John made the heroic decision to donate his organs. This week, 56 families felt the joy of hope for their family, even in the darkest moments for C.J.’s family.
Many have asked what they can do for the family and we have thought of a few suggestions:
Pray for comfort. Hallie, John, Connor and their extended family have pain that is indescribable; please offer up prayers that comfort can come to them.
2. Continue to send messages of support. The messages of support they have received mean more than they can express right now. Messages sent through Facebook, her Blog, or for those who have the ability, text messages of support are appreciated. While they are not able to respond, they are reading them, and it does lift them in support when one more step or one more breath seems like it’s just too much to take.
3. Make a donation. Kimmy and I have set up a fund called the "Twomey Family Benefit” for the family to use as they see fit – for funeral expenses, for a memorial for C.J. or maybe even to just be able to get away as a family and spend time grieving the loss of their beloved son. Many of us felt the need to do SOMETHING, and being far away, and knowing that we can't take away the emotional burden, this felt like something we could do to help.
If you are inclined to make a donation, you can simply walk it into any TD Bank and ask to make a donation to the "Twomey Family Benefit" (these exact words must be used). If, however, you do not have a TD Bank near you (as they are only located on the East Coast) you can simply mail a check to:
200 US Route 1
The checks should be made payable to the: “Twomey Family Benefit” and should also include those exact words in the memo line of the check.
Any questions can be directed to Kimmy at: firstname.lastname@example.org
We know that this time, for all of us, is shocking and difficult to comprehend a life cut so short. We hope and pray that you can take a moment to hold those you love tight, tell them you love them and cherish every moment.
Love like C.J. did, with his whole heart, and give to others freely.
May we all find comfort...
Dayna & Kimmy